SO It's Came To This...

I will be shutting down my BABY FACTORY!!! I went in for my Post Natal Appointment and the doc explained to me that after our SCARE with the hemeraging after having just delievered Aiden, he's afraid that IF I get pregnant again then there might be a chance come deliverey time for what would be my 7th baby either one of three things could happen to me
1~ I bleed to death right there and die, if he cannot stop it with meds or tranfusion.
2~ I and the baby die from complications or I lose the pregnancy.
3~ If he can get the hemeraging to stop with drugs or tranfusion then he'd have to do a Hystrectomy (Sp?)
Basically he told me FLAT OUT, your body will not tallerate another pregnancy without killing BOTH of you or one of you. This is the best route for me to take. So NO MORE babies for me. I'm kinda sad in a way but then again I have been blessed with 6 of the most beautiful children GOD could ever give to me. I call him ( Dr. Tucker) tomorrow to let him know my and Phil's final decidion, we've already made our minds up that MY LIFE is more important than risking another pregnancy and Phil losing us both or one of us. So I will be calling to set up a date as to when it will be done.

Aww!! Dusti I'm so sorry!! I can imagine that must be hard to hear!!!!! It sounds like it'll be for the best but it's not an easy decision!

awww hun I am soooo sorry for you! but like you said you have your 6 already and they need their mamma...it is so not worth risking it. Big Hugs Hun!!!

Thanks ladies. I know I am thanking my LUCKY STARS right now that I at least Know what it's like to give birth, hold your newborn and have someone call you MOMMY. That I thank God for everytime I see my babies. Sad thing ( for me) is that I'll "never" feel that small twitch or kick again or hear a HB beating from inside me other than myown. But... to keep from gettin all depressed I take a look at what I DO have and then I imagine how hard it would be on ALL OF MY FAMILY if they'd lost me if I ignore what Dr. Tucker is stressing what the Ovious is to me. I don't wanna die, I wouldn't want what would be my baby to die ( if I ever got pregnant again), so it's BEST I avoid this from happening. I know what it's like to lose a pregnancy, I've lost two of them and it hurt me physically and emotionally so I wouldn't want to feel that kinda pain either. It's the right thing to do so I'm getting it done. SOme mommies may feel differently some may not about having to make this type of decidion, but for me, my body, my doctor's advice, my intution, and my heart tell me DO IT, GET IT OVER WITH, so I'm gonna do it.

That's a very smart decision!!!

im sorry to hear that you wont have any more. you need to do what is best for your health.

So sorry to hear about that, Dusti.. But I beleive you made the right decsion.. Big hugs.. I know it must be hard..Hang in there! If you two want a sibling for Aiden..lol a younger one that is.. hehehe! There is always Adoption.. It is the Best thing I have even done in my entire life!

It is sad, when you don't want it. But it does sound like the best solution! I have yet to regret my tubal! lol MY baby factory is closed!

It's a fairly simply procedure, physically. Mentally, it can be tough.
I have enough children. I can barely handle the ones I have though I love them with all my heart. We were done after Cody and along came Savannah but I'm SO glad she did.
After she was born and I had my tubal I had a bit of a tough time coming to terms with the finality of it all.
I wouldn't say I regret it, I guess I just felt like less of a woman.
I've also found myself incredibly paraniod about Cody for some reason. Maybe because he's the boy... But I have these terrible concerns about what if he's run over or hurt or whatever...wierd.
Anyway, {hugs} and I hope it goes smoothly all the way around.
Just try to remember, you're six times blessed.

Thanks guys, I knew ya'll would make me feel better about it all.

loomistunes wrote:So sorry to hear about that, Dusti.. But I beleive you made the right decsion.. Big hugs.. I know it must be hard..Hang in there! If you two want a sibling for Aiden..lol a younger one that is.. hehehe! There is always Adoption.. It is the Best thing I have even done in my entire life!

That's what I was going to say, adoption is always an option... but you definitely need to do what's best for your health. You wouldn't want to leave 6 without a mama.

I think it sounds like a very well thought out and good decision for you and your family.

loomistunes wrote:So sorry to hear about that, Dusti.. But I beleive you made the right decsion.. Big hugs.. I know it must be hard..Hang in there! If you two want a sibling for Aiden..lol a younger one that is.. hehehe! There is always Adoption.. It is the Best thing I have even done in my entire life!

Yeah that is true, there is always Adoption and I love to be able to do something like that, but after hearing the heartaches that accompany adoptions such as ( the parents wanting their child back, getting close to the child then having to give them back, knowing the history of the child and learning how to deal with them if it's a Bad background they came from, and so on and so on) I just think it would break my heart to have to see a child go through such a dramatic life. I've read your posts from day one when Sam was placed with you and all the heartache you went through and then having to give up the other little baby you had... and then Robin with Nina. I just think my heart would break so hard to have to get close to them ( the girls, Aiden , Phil and I) and then something happen were one minute they're with us and the next they are gone or the parents have a change of heart at the last minute. I think both you and Robin have the Biggest hearts and I have so much admiration for you both and what you two have done opening up your heatrs and lives to these special BEAUTIFUL ( might I add as well) little children. I just can't do it...

Thanks Dusti.. but everyday I look at Samantha, Brandon and Hunter I know that the little bit of heartache I went through was totally worth it and I am the lucky one to have them call me mommy! It is the most AMAZING feeling in all the world.. I thank God each and every day for my children.